The 38-year-old Phuti Mphelo says her motto in life is “always be thankful for what you have and focus on positive things.”
With August being Women’s month, Mogol Post interviewed Phuti as she is a clear example of a strong, successful and positive woman.
Phuti lives in Lephalale, she is aware of the sinking economy, the crime stats, the municipal irregularities, the suicide attempts, the drug abuse and the other ongoing problems, “but Lephalale is more good than it is bad,” she says.
“When I wake up in the morning, I write down five things that I am thankful for. Even if it is just the cup of coffee that I am drinking. In the mess of modern life, there is always someone trying to do well. I always try to get perspective in a situation – if something is bad or negative, ask yourself what you can learn from it and what you can celebrate,” says Phuti.
She learned in Lephalale that when there is a need, there is always someone to help.
“I needed to end up in a smaller town. It gave me time to be thankful. I have more time now to focus on the things that are really important. I can put my hair down and wear flat heel shoes. It is easier to breathe here than it is in Johannesburg,” she says.
She is also outspoken about the role of a woman in the family. “If you think your husband is supposed to make you happy, you are in for a big surprise. He is not supposed to make you happy, you have to be happy with yourself.
“Women are so influential it is actually scary. Women set the tone, be intentional about the position you hold. Think about what you leave behind”.
Phuti grew up in Polokwane as the only girl among three brothers. Her father was a Magistrate (he is now Acting Judge of the Family Court) and her mother was and still is a primary school teacher.
She completed her matric at Capricorn High School in Polokwane where after she went to the University of Pretoria and the University of Natal to study to become a chartered accountant. She’s lived in Johannesburg, Durban, Pretoria and Polokwane and worked at the well-known company Ernst and Young Chartered Accountants.
What brought her to Lephalale?
Phuti was only 16 years old when she first met Sello Mphelo. She married Dr Sello Mphelo in January 2009 and they moved to Lephalale in December 2010. Dr Mphelo is a General Practitioner and ER doctor at Mediclinic Lephalale and Phuti is currently doing the finances and admin for their business, Incontrol Health Solutions, a company that manages Mediclinic Lephalale’s ER Unit. They have two children – a 6-year-old girl and a 23-month-old boy.
She remembers her dad’s advice every day – never focus on the bad – it is easier to be happy and happiness is a choice.
Phuti gains inspiriation from Proverbs 20 verse 5: “Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out”.
“Let’s try and bring out the good.”